Why No One Will Ever Marry Me

Part of my beliefs about marriage and being a wife and my investment in the role I have had the pleasure of acquiring stems from my fear and insecurities….of course. I have always had an unrelenting fear or rather dread of the potential fate I felt was going to be my demise…that no one would ever marry me. I felt unlovable. I felt unworthy. I felt something was wrong with me. Hmmm why…you ask? Let…

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How Not to Argue

Wednesday, November 23 I have broken my vows multiple times already, see this is what this blog is helping me do, keep myself accountable. I have said that this is not just a forum for me to pretend that just because I am a therapist and have had some experience counseling couples or because I have been married one month and one day, that I have any room to advise others. I am here for…

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What is it like to be married to YOU?

Uhhh what is it like to be married to me? As I am sitting here annoyed….I am trying to have empathy. Empathy for my husband. I don’t like the way he expressed himself and I find myself getting stuck on that…because ya know the therapist in me has these super high expectations that not even I can achieve…that there is a certain way to express yourself in a way that does not damage the relationship…

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What I Learned About Marriage From Bartending

As one of my first post on this site I want to begin by sharing some background information about my life experiences. These will likely be intermixed throughout. As you have possibly read, I am currently a therapist…you know a well-rounded, even keel, always express myself appropriately therapist…can you hear the sarcasm in my key-strokes? Well, I wasn’t always this optimistic about the concept of marriage. I was a bartender…at a smutty bar. Is that…

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