Why We Should Focus on the Positives…But Not TOO Much

So often we humans focus on the negatives. I’m going to tell you why we should spend more time focusing on the positives…but not too much! Do you ever feel like you are bragging about your life? I mean is that not what we all do on social media all day long? Every time you post a picture of you smiling with your partner or check in at a fancy restaurant…what message are you sending?…

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How Not to Argue

Wednesday, November 23 I have broken my vows multiple times already, see this is what this blog is helping me do, keep myself accountable. I have said that this is not just a forum for me to pretend that just because I am a therapist and have had some experience counseling couples or because I have been married one month and one day, that I have any room to advise others. I am here for…

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What is it like to be married to YOU?

Uhhh what is it like to be married to me? As I am sitting here annoyed….I am trying to have empathy. Empathy for my husband. I don’t like the way he expressed himself and I find myself getting stuck on that…because ya know the therapist in me has these super high expectations that not even I can achieve…that there is a certain way to express yourself in a way that does not damage the relationship…

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What I Learned About Marriage From Bartending

As one of my first post on this site I want to begin by sharing some background information about my life experiences. These will likely be intermixed throughout. As you have possibly read, I am currently a therapist…you know a well-rounded, even keel, always express myself appropriately therapist…can you hear the sarcasm in my key-strokes? Well, I wasn’t always this optimistic about the concept of marriage. I was a bartender…at a smutty bar. Is that…

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