The Truth Behind Depression

Day #who knows that I decided to stay home from work because I was tired. What really was the reason? We have been working on and finished painting the bedroom for the past two days which did hurt my back because I helped move a few pieces of furniture. I can walk though. My back doesn’t hurt any more today than it did yesterday. It hurt last night before I went to bed so that…

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Why I Choose Happiness

I have made a promise to myself and unbeknownst to my husband, that I will never publish something when I am mad. That would be irrational, unfair and uncouth. Obviously we argue, we are human. Even perfect people argue because arguing is okay. But “perfect” people argue in perfect ways by never name calling, never cursing at each other, never score keeping , using “i statements” and using a calm tone of voice. Like I…

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How Not to Argue

Wednesday, November 23 I have broken my vows multiple times already, see this is what this blog is helping me do, keep myself accountable. I have said that this is not just a forum for me to pretend that just because I am a therapist and have had some experience counseling couples or because I have been married one month and one day, that I have any room to advise others. I am here for…

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What is it like to be married to YOU?

Uhhh what is it like to be married to me? As I am sitting here annoyed….I am trying to have empathy. Empathy for my husband. I don’t like the way he expressed himself and I find myself getting stuck on that…because ya know the therapist in me has these super high expectations that not even I can achieve…that there is a certain way to express yourself in a way that does not damage the relationship…

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What I Learned About Marriage From Bartending

As one of my first post on this site I want to begin by sharing some background information about my life experiences. These will likely be intermixed throughout. As you have possibly read, I am currently a therapist…you know a well-rounded, even keel, always express myself appropriately therapist…can you hear the sarcasm in my key-strokes? Well, I wasn’t always this optimistic about the concept of marriage. I was a bartender…at a smutty bar. Is that…

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