The man I literally dreamed up…everyone said he would not exist, but here he is…
This may be people’s biggest question about what I am doing here. I am 32 and I have just gotten married. This feels like a late start compared to those around me, but an appropriate start for me and my goals of having a once in a life time marriage. I am happy to have a late start. I am grateful. Divorce is an ugly mess most of the time and I am sure that if I had married any of those frogs that I …”uh, just know he’s the one…” haha, I would for sure be divorced and on my second round.
I don’t know why, but I have always had a sacred place in my heart for marriage…well not THAT sacred. Sacred enough that marriage has meant a lot to me. I value it. I value that this ONE person has chosen…literally to legally be bound as your BFF, like in front of all, stood up and vowed to be by your side, protect you, stand up for you, love you through thick and thin…all that mushy stuff FOREVER. Or ya know until the divorce lawyers got involved. None the less, this person chose you. They are not bound to you by blood and unconditional expectations of love, they do not rely on you for food and water and safety like your babies do…but they chose… on their own free will to hang out with you… every day…all the time..until they die. I don’t know about ya’ll but that is some deep shit to me that I do not take lightly.
AND I FEEL LIKE NO ONE CARES!
People are so nonchalant with marriages these days and what it actually means to devote the rest of your life to being in a partnership with someone. There are Pinterest page after Pinterest page about Keto recipes, Holiday decorations, and beauty blenders but I rarely if ever come across anything regarding investing in relationships whether your marriage or your bestie. Perhaps if people focused a quarter of the energy on internet to looking at ways to improve their marriage rather than their cheek bones we would have more happy wives and happy lives.
So…I am here to help myself (and keep myself on track) and those who would like some help themselves, and maybe those who need some convincing… on how to be a happy wife and have a happy life. We all know “if momma aint happy aint nobody happy.” I have a feeling this statement and this column here may cause some controversy, but I have a theory that I will share with you about how and where to invest your energy to achieve the results you want.
Brooke and Steven
One Year Anniversary 10.20.19
My husband is amazing if you have not already gathered that. For our anniversary I didn’t want presents. I didn’t want a piece of jewelry. I wanted an experience with him. Now he probably, well I know…because I heard many times, would rather me have just asked for a present. I never said I was easy. I requested a day for us to get dressed up in 50s attire and drive around an old car listening to my favorite oldies and that is exactly what I got….oh and a photo shoot of course.