How To Use Your Husband for Fitness Motivation

If you know me well at all in life you know that I LOVE food and I also HATE food. Right now I am on the struggle bus with myself. I have reached a whopping 200 lbs for the first time in my life.  I am always looking for new motivations and my husband is one of them. We as women all know it is hard to do anything for yourself, but usually that comes…

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Why It Is SO Hard to Talk About Abuse

One of these days, I will be able to tell my story. To get it all out, to get it all off of my chest. To talk about my abusive relationship and all that came with. However, I don’t know why I still question. As the therapist in me says, “duh its cathartic.” Even so, I still question why people have this need. Why do I have this need to get this information out? Why…

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How Not to Argue

Wednesday, November 23 I have broken my vows multiple times already, see this is what this blog is helping me do, keep myself accountable. I have said that this is not just a forum for me to pretend that just because I am a therapist and have had some experience counseling couples or because I have been married one month and one day, that I have any room to advise others. I am here for…

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What is it like to be married to YOU?

Uhhh what is it like to be married to me? As I am sitting here annoyed….I am trying to have empathy. Empathy for my husband. I don’t like the way he expressed himself and I find myself getting stuck on that…because ya know the therapist in me has these super high expectations that not even I can achieve…that there is a certain way to express yourself in a way that does not damage the relationship…

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What I Learned About Marriage From Bartending

As one of my first post on this site I want to begin by sharing some background information about my life experiences. These will likely be intermixed throughout. As you have possibly read, I am currently a therapist…you know a well-rounded, even keel, always express myself appropriately therapist…can you hear the sarcasm in my key-strokes? Well, I wasn’t always this optimistic about the concept of marriage. I was a bartender…at a smutty bar. Is that…

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